When I read this article, it didn’t sit with me entirely. Several days ago, the Women’s Marijuana Movement marked both Sexual Assault Awareness Month and Alcohol Awareness Month [that’s a lot of awareness for one month] by arguing that increased cannabis use may help prevent rapes fueled by booze. Shew. That’s a stretch for me. Increased yoga might also lessen the amount of booze-fueled rapes, but I don’t think the frat boys at the local university are going to go for it. There’s a personal accountability element that seems to be missing as well, though I recognize some of her points.
Toni Fox, who’s the stepmother of an eighteen-year-old college student and mother of a fourteen-month-old toddler, comes from what she describes as “an alcoholic family” and admits that she developed “a tendency to use alcohol to the point where you get intoxicated.”
This habit led directly to the first of several incidents during her life when she was sexually assaulted, she says.
“I was in tenth grade, and I lived in a small town — absolutely middle America, where it’s socially acceptable for kids to binge-drink at any early age,” she recalls. “I was invited to a party with the popular kids and binge-drank with them. And one of the attendees, a very popular kid in school, took complete advantage of me. I was completely inebriated, passed out, and he had sex with me anyway.”
Similar situations took place in years to come. “When I was older, in my twenties and going out to nightclubs, excessive drinking was always part of the poor choices I made. You lose your ability to rationalize, and bad things can happen. And every woman I’ve spoken to, other than my daughter, has been sexually assaulted in one form or another — and when they look back on it, alcohol was involved.”
That’s one reason Fox got involved with the Mason Tvert-founded SAFER (Safer Alternative for Enjoyable Recreation) six years ago. She subsequently helped launch the Women’s Marijuana Movement — and her stepdaughter’s attendance at Metro State College has only reinforced her views about marijuana versus alcohol.
“My daughter makes the safer choice,” notes Fox, who says she now drinks rarely and only in moderation. “Not that I condone her using marijuana when she’s only eighteen. But she tells me on almost a weekly basis about someone she knows at school who was date-raped because of alcohol. And thank goodness nothing like that has ever happened to her.”
Beth Mann is a popular blogger and writer for Open Salon and Salon. She is also an accomplished actor and director with over 15 years of experience, as well as the president of Hot Buttered Media. She currently resides at the Jersey shore where she can often be seen surfing or singing karaoke at a local dive bar.
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